Single? Who cares!

Why are you single? None of your business

Don’t you feel lonely? NO.
Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one without a stable partner – and it doesn’t help that people constantly ask me why I’m single; but one thing I know for sure, I DON’T CARE!

I’m at that age where everyone around me is starting to get married, have kids or even in some cases get divorced! So why do I feel like I’m not even ready to start that journey yet?

It could be due to the way I was brought up, it could be due to things I have seen and heard over the years, it could even be that I don’t believe in wasting time in a relationship if I truly don’t believe there is a future in it. The fact that the majority of my friends are male also leads me to be distrusting at times – they have shown me time and time again how they think when they are in a relationship (and have claimed to be in love even though cheating constantly on their girlfriends) – so why should I trust someone?

I’m not saying I will never be in a relationship, actually I hope that one day I do find that person that I can trust in, who I can share moments with, who I can learn from and grow old with… I’m just saying, that why rush into something I don’t feel ready for- age is just a number! If it’s meant to be it will happen, there is no point in forcing myself into something that in the future won’t complete me as a person.

For the moment, I would rather invest my time in focusing on myself, my career and enjoying nights out, meeting new people and having fun- and if I happen to cross that special someone along the way, then why not!

I promise to myself from here on, to keep on enjoying single life, to let things happen, to let my guard down at times but to think with my head and not only with my heart, let destiny choose for me.

So to everyone who has asked me over these last few weeks/months…There’s your answer!



Lostness: def. the state and feeling of being lost.

Who am I? Where am I going? These are questions that all of us ask ourselves at one point in our lives, but why? Yes, another question. Well, this last one can be answered; All of us go through a turn-around point (or several) in our lives, either at a young age or further on in life, however the one common factor is that this point will leave us in a state of temporary worry, anxiety and not knowing where we belong, who we want to be, where we want to go from here, in other words: LOST.

As a twenty-five year old, one would think I would have no clue what I’m talking about, and maybe their right, however I believe the situations life has thrown at me have not only hurt me but have made me that much stronger so as to start appreciating life and be aware enough to realise what mistakes I have made in life when affronting difficult situations, and what not to do next time these situations arise.

Young people nowadays seem to have one common struggle, and that is finding a job that is worthy to them. Like myself, many young people have spent several years dedicated to studying, aiming to achieve great things, and also worked so as to gain the experience needed to obtain the job that suits you; But this is not enough, as it seems no matter how hard we try or how much we learn we are in a world where the financial crisis has hit hard and has decreased the amount of opportunities for us. This common factor is demotivating and can contribute to ones sense of lostness.

One thing I’ve learnt from this is that however lost we may feel, we should not worry because by doing this we are not improving the situation yet in fact delaying ourselves to be mentally prepared to escape the frustration.

So if you are feeling “lost in life”, don’t threat, this feeling will end sooner or later. No matter what you do, stay happy, hopeful and as you have probably heard many times throughout your life “just think, there are always people that are worse off than yourself”. In fact, if you really want to feel worthy, why not help the less-fortunate, this will give you a new lease on life while also giving someone else the hope that you need (or needed!).

You WILL find yourself: live your own life and not that of others, be true to yourself – just be YOU! The feeling of lostness is just another necessary part of the journey of life, and without it this journey would be monotone and uneventful.

As quoted by Erol Ozan – “Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.”